09 Jul

Okay, I’m ready to be motivated!

Sorry to disappoint you, but there is no big secret to being motivated. There is no magical formula, expensive pill or exotic herbs you can take. Yes, you might attend a motivational talk or read a motivational book or actually even take exotic herbs, but these are just tools you use along the way. These are not your core motivators, they don’t maintain your motivation, they simple assist you in your journey.

To maintain your motivational levels you firstly need to understand and accept that no body or thing can motivate you except for yourself.

Newsflash! The main motivator in your life is you.

Waiting around for other people to motivate you is just doing an injustice to yourself. The more you depend on others, the more power you surrender to them and the less control you have over your life. Which inevitably affects your self-esteem and confidence levels.

The research says that intrinsic motivation is motivation that stems from genuine interest and ambition, and not from external motivators such as status and power. It’s about engaging in specific behaviours because you want to, and these behaviours bring you happiness and personal reward. You do these activities because you want to do them, not because you have been told to or seek reward from someone else.

So how can you increase your intrinsic motivators?

Instead of focusing your energy on other people and how demotivated you are, start focusing on what you are genuinely interested in. Be careful not to randomly select activities or work which you think might interest you, or select something because someone else enjoys it. Really spend some time reflecting on what activities inspire and drive you. Once you have discovered these genuine interests, you can stop relying on others to motivate you, and channel and develop those interests into intrinsic motivators. These is where you take the power back. This is where you start controlling your life.

To  spark you in your discovery of what your internal motivators are, try asking yourself these questions:

  1.  What energises you?
  2. When do you feel most alive?
  3. What are your three greatest accomplishments? What made these accomplishments stand out for you?
  4. What specifically is it about your work that lifts your spirit?
  5. When are you at your best? When do you believe you are adding value to yourself?

Take your time to answer these questions. It may take a few days to really reflect on them and to feel comfortable with your answers. Once you have come to an answer, you can start your journey.

You see, the thing is that it isn’t about what other people think or do, it’s just about what makes you happy.

03 Mar

Golden nuggets worth sharing #8 – How to make work life balance work

I came across this TED Talk and thought it quite relevant, especially at the beginning of a year, where most people are very focused on change and planning out their lives for the next few months and also trying to instil new year’s resolutions or new habits.

I found this talk extremely impactful and Nigel Marsh’s simple message is extremely inspiring.  (I won’t say why, as i’ll give it away). I found that this talk also aligned itself to mindfulness practises, which is focusing on the present and being mindful of the here and the now. Besides the positive impact this has on our being it also nourishes the soul and makes the ordinary, extraordinary.

The talk is 10 minutes long and will hopefully provide you with some juicy nuggets to implement this year.

Watch it below, or on the TED.com website.

26 Feb

Golden nuggets worth sharing #5 – Inspiration from George Bernard Shaw

Two quotes by George Bernard Shaw which truly resonate with me. The first quote speaks of people who are in control of their future and absolutely making things happen for themselves. Waiting around for something good to land in your lap or for someone else to direct your future can be extremely disempowering and soul destroying. This type of positive mindset, being in control of your destiny and actively choosing your path is exciting and liberating and helps you achieve your desired goals faster.

 People are always blaming their circumstances for what they are. I don’t believe in circumstances. The people who get on in this world are the people who get up and look for the circumstances they want, and if they can’t find them, make them.”
~ George Bernard Shaw

The second quote I find totally inspiring! It opens your eyes to see that there are so many opportunities in life from which you can choose, and most importantly that you are the only one who can create a stronger, better you. Nobody else!

“Life isn’t about finding yourself. Life is about creating yourself.”
~ George Bernard Shaw

Hope these have inspired you as much as they have me. Every now and again I find myself referring back to these wise words and they focus me. Powerful stuff!!