03 Mar

Golden nuggets worth sharing #8 – How to make work life balance work

I came across this TED Talk and thought it quite relevant, especially at the beginning of a year, where most people are very focused on change and planning out their lives for the next few months and also trying to instil new year’s resolutions or new habits.

I found this talk extremely impactful and Nigel Marsh’s simple message is extremely inspiring.  (I won’t say why, as i’ll give it away). I found that this talk also aligned itself to mindfulness practises, which is focusing on the present and being mindful of the here and the now. Besides the positive impact this has on our being it also nourishes the soul and makes the ordinary, extraordinary.

The talk is 10 minutes long and will hopefully provide you with some juicy nuggets to implement this year.

Watch it below, or on the TED.com website.

26 Feb

Golden nuggets worth sharing #5 – Inspiration from George Bernard Shaw

Two quotes by George Bernard Shaw which truly resonate with me. The first quote speaks of people who are in control of their future and absolutely making things happen for themselves. Waiting around for something good to land in your lap or for someone else to direct your future can be extremely disempowering and soul destroying. This type of positive mindset, being in control of your destiny and actively choosing your path is exciting and liberating and helps you achieve your desired goals faster.

 People are always blaming their circumstances for what they are. I don’t believe in circumstances. The people who get on in this world are the people who get up and look for the circumstances they want, and if they can’t find them, make them.”
~ George Bernard Shaw

The second quote I find totally inspiring! It opens your eyes to see that there are so many opportunities in life from which you can choose, and most importantly that you are the only one who can create a stronger, better you. Nobody else!

“Life isn’t about finding yourself. Life is about creating yourself.”
~ George Bernard Shaw

Hope these have inspired you as much as they have me. Every now and again I find myself referring back to these wise words and they focus me. Powerful stuff!!

17 Feb

Golden nuggets worth sharing #7 – Listening to your gut

Before we start working on achieving our goals, we need to define what the actual goal is. This is such a crucial part of the change process, but somehow can be rushed or overlooked. To ensure that we are 100% sure of our goal(s), it is best at this early stage to take the time to be honest in what we want to achieve.

Sticking with the Tao of Pooh theme, I have come across an extremely insightful piece on how we should listen to our “gut” or Inner Nature as it is termed in the Chapter Cottlestone Pie in the Tao of Pooh. Our Inner Nature or “gut” is there to be noticed and listened to. It assists us with moving into the change process with confidence and a positive frame of mind.

“…As we have likely recognised by now, no two snowflakes, trees, or animals are alike. No two people are the same, either. Everything has its own Inner Nature. Unlike other forms of life, though, people are easily led away from what’s right for them, because people have Brain, and Brian can be fooled. Inner Nature, when relied on, cannot be fooled.But many people do not look at it or listen to it, and consequently do not understand themselves very much. having little understanding of themselves, they have little respect for themselves, and are therefore easily influenced by others. But, rather than carried along by circumstances and manipulated by those who can see the weaknesses and behaviour tendencies that we ignore, we can work with our own characteristics and be in control of our own lives. The way of self-reliance starts with recognising who we are, what we’ve got to work with, and what works best for us…”

In today’s world we are bombarded by so many external pressures of what’s socially acceptable. Through all this external pressure we lose sight of our own voice. We follow blindly like a herd of sheep and expect to be happy and content because someone said that we would be satisfied if we did what everyone else did. We have somehow lost the ability to listen and most importantly trust our own internal voice. We have “tuned out”  what our “gut” is telling us.


Take the time to consider what you want to achieve. Focus on yourself and what’s best for you. This always makes a happier you!

14 Feb

Golden Nuggets worth sharing #6 – Inner Nature – The Tao of Pooh

Recently I’ve been re-reading the wonderfully inspiring book, The Tao of Pooh, written by Benjamin Hoff. I first read it when I was 16 years old and over the years I have referred back to it for inspiration, focus or to reconnect with the simplicity of life. Every time I re-read it I discover a new lesson or have another “aha” moment.

Whilst reading the chapter titled “Cottlestone pie” which investigates and explains the meaning of one’s Inner Nature. It struck me that this can so easily be aligned to life coaching. Exploring alternative options and paths within our lives as well as understanding our true selves.

Coaching provides us with the space and time to explore these options which we wouldn’t necessarily consider.

The following are a few excerpts from The Tao of Pooh, which I would like to share with you.

Cottlestone, Cottlestone, Cottlestone Pie,
A fly can’t bird, but a bird can fly.
Ask me a riddle and I reply:
Cottlestone, Cottlestone, Cottlestone Pie…

“Let’s start with the first part: “A fly can’t bird, but a bird can fly” Very simple. It’s obvious, isn’t it? And yet, you’d be surprised how many people violate this simple principle every day of their lives and try to fit square pegs into round holes, ignoring the clear reality that Things Are as they Are. …”

“… In other words, everything has its own place and function. That applies to people, although many don’t seem to realise it, stuck as they are in the wrong job, the wrong marriage or the wrong house. When you know and respect your own Inner Nature, you know where you belong. You also know where you don’t belong. One man’s food is another man’s poison, and what is glamorous and exciting to some can be a dangerous trap to others.”

I am sure there are many unique messages in the above paragraphs, and depending on what you are focusing on in your life, certain themes will be more prominent than others. However,  from a coaching perspective it confirms very clearly that if we want to be true to ourselves we need to choose what’s best for us and decide on our own personal goals. What truly drives us? Taking ownership of other people’s goals eventually causes frustration and we tend to lose interest and become despondent. We end up wondering why we haven’t moved forward in our lives.

We need to honestly ask ourselves, are the goals we are working towards our own or someone else’s?  What do I truly want in my life? What makes me happy? What motivates and inspires me? How do I know I am adding value to myself? To reiterate “When you know and respect your own Inner Nature, you know where you belong. You also know where you don’t belong.” This knowledge is extremely empowering and opens your eyes to so many wonderful possibilities. This is when life gets exciting!

Take ownership of your own lives. Choose what’s right for you!

18 Dec

Golden nuggets worth sharing #3 – How to expand your comfort zone

As you very well know, coaching, in a nutshell is about helping to facilitate the change process. So, before we can start changing we need to initiate it. How do we know we have done that and how do we know that the necessary changes have taken place?
Here is a small schematic, which I have already shared with you, which quite simply and beautifully explains what is required or the critical first step required  for change or “the magic” to start happening. What I find key is firstly allowing ourselves to understand, recognise and acknowledge that if action does not take place we will never change. We need to own our own change process.
This is a beautiful awakening of our present situation and helps us to take control of ourselves and the decisions we make to influence a better more fulfilling future. We can wish and imagine things differently and talk about it until the cows come home, but without making the first step, we stagnate and limit ourselves and our future.
Granted this is not an easy step and can be quite daunting, but deep down inside we know that the change we initiate and manage will  only be for the better.


I have attached an article for you, written by Brendan Baker on How to expand your comfort zone. Enjoy!
04 Dec

Golden Nuggets worth sharing #2 – Managing your energy not time


I have been in two minds whether to share this particular article with you, as it is aimed more at business than individuals. However, after having a good think I realised that when they refer to “executives” or “managers” within the business environment they could easily be referring to individuals in their own personal capacity. Thinking about it, we are all executives or managers of our own lives and for many of us we are, by default, executives of our families, children, homes and spouse’s lives too. So in short, everyone qualifies.

This article talks about the four main wellsprings in human beings: the body, emotions, mind, and spirit. I like to key that into or associate it with the Wheel of Life exercise. The Wheel of self or energy has a nice ring to it. This article also offers a great exercise for you to complete, “Are you headed for an energy crisis?” together with suggestions of how to start balancing out your energy. 

The entire article may not interest you, but the principles of actively changing things in your life to improve your wellbeing is incredibly sound within this article. This is something I truly believe in and strive everyday to actively incorporate into my life.


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