When last did you stop to discover the treasure?Posted by On July 23, 2015

Have you ever experienced disappointment? That sinking feeling in the pit of your stomach, when your hopes seem to evaporate into thin air?

Most of us have been disappointed, and there is no doubt that we will be disappointed again in the future. Such is life; full of swings and roundabouts. I don’t want to start a pity party and pay unnecessary attention to the “what ifs”  and “could haves”. My focus here is on “What are your actions after you have experienced disappointment?’

Do you sink into the failure and bury your head in the sand or do you steamroll ahead and start planning your comeback?

What would happen if you did neither? What would happen if you lifted your head out of the sand or just stopped for a second, stepped back and took some time to really looked at the so-called unwanted end result?

So often we don’t look at and accept the end result for what it is. We are so set on a pre-determined outcome that if the end result is slightly off the mark, it is deemed a failure and rejected.

The following questions could assist you in discovering buried treasures.

  • When last did you look at a failure and ask yourself how did it benefit your life?
  • What were the lessons learnt from this “failure”?
  • Due to the unforeseen end results, how did your life change for the good?
  • Why did the plan fail? What caused the failure? 

Do not hang on to what went wrong. Stop beating yourself up, its not worth it. Rather try to understand the lessons of why it happened and use that to move forward.

Treasures come in many packages and most of the time not how we envisioned them to be. Just be open-minded and seek to understand the lessons and stop with quick dismissive judgments.



Nicole Coyne



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Nicole is a certified professional coach as well as a certified trainer, advanced assessor and coach mentor. Based in Auckland, she provides a range of coaching options, from individual business owner and management coaching, group and team coaching workshops to personal coaching. Her coaching practice is aligned to the ICF ethos and ethics. Need to hire a professional coach? Contact Nicole nicole@tikumu.co.nz 

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