Acknowledging that you are stressed and that it’s not okay
Fobbing off your stress and saying it’s okay is not okay. Realise that you are risking your health and wellbeing and if you don’t get on top of your negative stressors it will get on top of you. Holmes-Rahe developed a stress test in the 1960s and it is pretty remarkable that when you complete the test you start becoming aware of how much or little stress you actually have in your life. That living in a negative stress bubble is not normal and can cause you serious harm.
Ask for help
Firstly, asking for help should never be seen as a weakness. It is probably one of the bravest things you could ever do. Help will look different in most cases, it just depends on your situation. You may need to talk to a professional therapist or councellor, a friend, a coach, a boss whatever the situation, ask for help. It’s okay to say that you don’t know how to solve an issue on your own. It’s healthy to ask for help.
Priorities, be selfish and learn to say “no”
Think about the negative stressors in your life and that includes your workplace. How many of these stressors are other people’s “stuff”? Learning to prioritise yourself as more important than others is key to learning how to manage and control stress. You are the most important person in your life first, then comes everyone else.
Be kind to yourself and take time out
Some stressors are not always in our control. So instead of sweeping them under the carpet, take some time out to actually deal with them. Take the time to process, think, mourn, whatever you need to do to clear your head, accept and move on.
Stress will always be in our lives. How you choose to manage it will be the key to how you successfully or unsuccessfully operate in the world.
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