Look around you. Who are you spending most of your time with? Who are you socialising and working with on a daily basis? Jim Rohn says, “You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with.” Are you content or concerned with your answer?
By allowing people into your world, you are unconsciously giving them permission to influence how you make decisions, think, behave and conduct your life. Depending on who these people are they will either inspire, nurture and motivate you to grow, or they will happily sit with you and be complacent.
The next time you are at work or a social occasion, take note of your thoughts, emotions and physical feelings. Do you feel happy, invigorated, and ready to take on the world, or do you feel tired, demotivated and bored? There could be many reasons for why you feel this way, but have you considered that the people around you are either energising or draining you?
The other important point to be aware of is that this influence lasts longer than the actual time you were physically with these people. If you find your working environment motivating, nurturing and positive, it is most likely that you will approach your next interaction with a positive attitude. This unfortunately works in the negative as well. Have you experienced this before and were you aware of the damage your behaviour could cause?
I invite you to answer the following questions the next time you are at work or in a social setting.
- Name of person you are interacting with
- How much time do I spend with this person? If this person is quite prominent in your life, go to the next question.
- How do I feel (emotionally & physically) when I am with this person?
- How do I feel (emotionally & physically) after my interaction with them?
- If the outcome is positive – How can I increase my time with this person?
- If the outcome is negative – How can I decrease my time with this person? or what do I need to do to change this negative outcome?
These questions will hopefully get you thinking about who you spend your time with and by just selecting the right people, you are supporting your choice for self-development and growth.