10 Mar

When is the right time to make changes? – Golden nuggets worth sharing #9

When is it the right time to start making changes in your life?

“For a long time it had seemed to me that life was about to begin – real life. But there was always some obstacle in the way, something to be got through first, some unfinished business, time still to be served, and a debt to be paid. Then life would begin. At last in dawned on me that these obstacles were my life.” (Alfred D ́Souza)

It is a common thing to hear people say that they are waiting for the right time to start their change process: “I’ll just wait for the beginning of next year to start fresh” or “I’ll just wait until I have some free time”. Unfortunately they are so busy waiting for the “right” time to pursue their passion that they never get to live it and feel the success of finding meaning in their lives.

Gretchen Rubin writes in The Happiness Project, “I had a brief vision of myself living for a month on a picturesque windswept island, where each day I would gather seashells, read Aristotle, and write in an elegant parchment journal.” 

But few of us will ever find our picturesque island where we can begin change. Waiting for the right setting or the right time to make changes and improvements, is often an unrealistic expectation that we can never meet. And then we wonder why we are getting frustrated.

The environment, time or ideal circumstances will likely never be perfect. If we are honest with ourselves and remove any wishful preconditions,  it becomes easier to create the right  mindset. Then the path forward becomes clearer.

So to answer the initial question, the right time is now! Stop waiting and just get on with it!

 

18 Dec

Golden nuggets worth sharing #3 – How to expand your comfort zone

As you very well know, coaching, in a nutshell is about helping to facilitate the change process. So, before we can start changing we need to initiate it. How do we know we have done that and how do we know that the necessary changes have taken place?
Here is a small schematic, which I have already shared with you, which quite simply and beautifully explains what is required or the critical first step required  for change or “the magic” to start happening. What I find key is firstly allowing ourselves to understand, recognise and acknowledge that if action does not take place we will never change. We need to own our own change process.
This is a beautiful awakening of our present situation and helps us to take control of ourselves and the decisions we make to influence a better more fulfilling future. We can wish and imagine things differently and talk about it until the cows come home, but without making the first step, we stagnate and limit ourselves and our future.
Granted this is not an easy step and can be quite daunting, but deep down inside we know that the change we initiate and manage will  only be for the better.

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I have attached an article for you, written by Brendan Baker on How to expand your comfort zone. Enjoy!